Lego_Vik

To txt or not to txt, that is the question

Hmmm. I just heard an nth hand rumour that my boss (who is also my friend) has just split up with her boyfriend. They've been together about 10 years and have a house (and a mortgage!) together and all sorts of stuff like that, so this isn't just a quick fling that's over.

She's away at the moment (off work for a pre-booked week's holiday, which my "sources" tell me she is going ahead with despite this development) and I don't know whether to txt her or not to see if she's OK... on the one hand, it is only an nth hand rumour, but on the other hand it is via a chain of reliable sources, and this wouldn't be completely out of the blue if it is true. Hmmm. Maybe I'll wait until she's back in the office and chat to her then.

I'm worried about causing offence (or appearing nosey, or uncaring, whatever) no matter what I do.
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Hmm, I know what you mean. It does feel a lot like butting in where you might not be welcome, even if you've heard things at closer hand than that. On the other hand I usually find that a random hug on irc goes down well with my friends when I've heard via other sources that they're unhappy, so I'd probably go for it. And if you want to hedge your bets you could just ask how the holiday is going...
It took me forever to figure out what you meant you were considering doing! Text messaging isn't nearly as popular here as it is where you live. :-)

I think I'd send her a generic message, asking how the trip is. If she's up to talking about what's going on, presumably she'd mention it herself?
I've now done it...
... so if she takes offence and never talks to me again I'll blame you lot :-))

I sent a pretty neutral message saying I hoped she had a nice trip. I added that I had heard from a mutual friend that all might not be well with her and her SO, and I hoped she was OK if it was true.

We shall see!